There’s no Shame in Seeing a Sex Therapist
It’s safe to say that the majority of us have not lived in a home environment or culture that embraces sexuality in a positive way. Think back to the first time someone spoke to you about sexuality. If the conversation was about sex, it amounted to the following: The unspoken conversation is: In other words, […]
Intimate Breakups
Whether the break up is with a longer-term beloved or with a shorter term intimate sexual partner, the emotional impact of a breakup is not any different for these relationships. It can be soul-destabilizing and can feel heart-sinking. The mind may be on a replay loop with the never ending ‘why’ questions. For those enduing […]
The Throes of Limerence
From the song Crazy Little Thing Called Love by Queen “She drives me crazy, she gives me hot and cold fever, then she leaves me in a cool cool sweat.” Consider these three scenarios: Scenario 1: “I can’t stop thinking about her. She occupies my mind and I get easily distracted at work and at home. I […]
Sexism affect men’s sex lives too
We don’t talk enough about how sexism affects men’s lives. The idea of ‘toxic masculinity’ is a real thing and if we can move more into ‘heathier masculinity’ or ’empowered masculinity’ or even ‘compassionate masculinity’, not only do we free ourselves from cultural expectations, we become more confident, more empowered in who we are, and […]
Is Porn to Blame for Erectile Dysfunction?
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is one of the most common sexual concerns men face, yet it remains surrounded by stigma and misinformation. A frequent question I hear as a sex therapist is, “Is porn causing my erectile dysfunction?” This query reflects a deep sense of anxiety and frustration, often exacerbated by conflicting messages online. Let’s unpack […]
