Exploring Men’s Sexual Self-Development and Erotic Potential
I have worked with numerous men facing various challenges from erection difficulties (having one and sustaining one), issues with ejaculation (too fast or not at all) and struggles with libido (diminished desire). The sentiments I often hear may resonate:
- “I don’t feel like a man.”
- “I don’t feel masculine.”
- “I’m not fulfilling my role as a partner.”
- “I can’t perform. I have performance anxiety.”
- “Something’s wrong with me.”
Sound familiar?
Here’s the revelation, gentlemen: there may be absolutely nothing wrong with you. Instead, other issues might be standing in your way. We, as men, experience our own form of sexism, internalizing negative messages that become deeply ingrained in our identity.
Picture this: being present and centered, quieting that inner critic, and experiencing heightened sexuality throughout your entire body. Envision transformative, enriching erotic experiences with yourself or others.
YES, all of this and more is entirely possible.
I’ve chosen this profession as an advocate and ally to help you realize that you have the right to authentically experience your sexuality. By ‘authentic,’ I mean letting go of toxic messages dictating how you should be as a sexual man. These messages will be replaced with affirming values, empowering beliefs, and the ability to experience your body in a deeper, more heightened, and erotic manner.
Erotic self-awareness, emotional literacy, along with allowing yourself to be open to vulnerability, paves the foundation to becoming an exquisite and highly skilled lover and navigating with confidence.
- Experience and respect your body with heightened presence and pleasure.
- Dismantle your own psychological barriers to erotic openness.
- Become a better lover, period.
- Dissolve shame and guilt associated with your desires.
- Understand your partner’s wants and pleasures more deeply.
- Communicate with an expanded vocabulary that aligns with your actions.
- And if you wish, learn how to sustain your erection, control your orgasm, and boost your libido.
Sexual Mastery By Design
When you’re prepared to embark on this transformative journey…
- We will delve into the core issues affecting your sexuality.
- We will uncover and address toxic, negative messages deeply ingrained from your past and in your subconscious mind.
- You’ll engage in personalized exercises and activities to expand your erotic experiences.
- Discover what it feels like to live more mindfully, intentionally, and with heightened presence, both in and out of the bedroom.
- Learn about boundaries and enthusiastic consent, ensuring you align with your values and avoid saying “yes” when your body is signaling “NO.”
- Develop the ability to step away from grandiosity and sexual narcissism, embracing a more collaborative and compassionate approach.
- Acquire the skills to assertively ‘take charge’ in the bedroom without coming across as arrogant or intimidating to your partner.
So, what exactly are we going to do?
When I work with men, my approach is upfront and practical, often using sex language that isn’t sterile or formal. My space is designed for your comfort so that you can be upfront, authentic and not hold back what you’re feeling (emotionally and sexually) and truly wanting to share.
Depending on your concern I incorporate years of formal training that can include these and additional approaches:
- cognitive reframing and reconceptualization
- teaching about sex and pleasure, including desire, arousal and orgasm
- sexual coaching and guidance
- relaxation, calming and stress reduction exercises
- meditation, clinical sexual hypnotherapy, acupressure
- reconceptualizing beliefs that are shame and guilt laden
Want something more out of this experience? Let’s discuss it openly and honestly. All possibilities are open for discussion.